Divorce Done Differently by Youngblood Law, PLLC

Youngblood Law, PLLC proudly focuses our practice on helping people through divorce so they can begin their new happily ever after! We reject the traditional toxic divorce that most people are familiar with.  Instead, we use low-conflict alternatives to simplify each divorce down to its essential elements.  This allows us to focus on protecting assets and preserving relationships.  That’s Divorce Innovation.

Divorce Overview


Divorce in Texas addresses property division between the spouses and issues surrounding the children of the marriage.  Texas courts try to do what is in the best interest of the child (BIC) as best they can.  Property division resembles a dissolution of a business partnership.  With child issues and property division, the Texas Family Code is the law the courts follow.  Youngblood Law, PLLC brings the law to bear for our clients throughout the divorce process.


The typical divorce induces tons of stress, fear, and anxiety. Youngblood Law, PLLC believes there is a better way to get divorced.  We know our clients may feel angry and hurt when they first reach out to us.  We also know that  ultimately, they want to start a new happily ever after.  That’s why we focus on puting our clients in the best possible position when the divorce is over.

Divorce can be stressful. Youngblood Law, PLLC believes there's a better way to divorceOur proven low-conflict strategies and tactics reduce stress and bring relief to our clients.  Instead of bickering with the other spouse’s attorney, we create win/win situations to reduce conflict in the divorce. Rather than litigate every issue, we prefer to negotiate, mediate, or collaborate to settle issues.  Low-conflict methods achieve results without the added stress of adversarial hearings.  Of course, when we must litigate Youngblood Law, PLLC fearlessly advocates for our clients with fervor and skill.

A side benefit of our low-conflict methods is stress reduction for our clients and also for the children. Small children should be shielded from grown-up matters as much as possible.  Teenagers need reassurance that they aren’t losing either parent.  Adult children need to maintain their relationships with both parents too.  Our low-conflict strategies support the emotional needs of the children as well as our clients.  That’s Divorce Innovation!

Non-Legal Considerations

When clients come to Youngblood Law, PLLC facing divorce, we provide guidance on more than the legal proceedings.  Besides the emotional damage the divorce causes, real life concerns of divorce must be confronted.  Our clients  wonder how they will move forward with their lives without their spouse’s income to help.  Certainly, mortgage payments, utility bills, car notes, and more still need to be paid during the divorce.

Making a solid plan is critical in a divorceAnyone facing a divorce must find an experienced family law firm to develop a plan for moving forward during the divorce.  Planning for living during the divorce is crucial for a successful divorce outcome.  Likewise, even fundamental questions about where to live during a divorce must be carefully thought out.

Fortunately, at Youngblood Law, PLLC, we are students of the entire divorce process.  We know our clients have a life to live outside the courtroom.  Unlike general practice law firms that occasionally take on a divorce and hope for the best, family law is all we do.  Divorce Innovation means we counsel our clients who are embarking on a whole new life.  Youngblood Law, PLLC supports our clients before, during and after the divorce is done.

The Divorce Proceedings

The legal process of divorce is complex. First, the Texas Family Code hard to master.  Second, there are many possible paths to take to get to the desired result. Still, a divorce starts like any other civil lawsuit, and Youngblood Law, PLLC handles the procedural aspects for our clients.  Our clients can rest easy knowing we are handling the paperwork.

Waiting Period

The day the divorce is filed starts the required 60-day waiting period.  Generally, the divorce cannot be finished until the 60 days has expired. During this time, we work to resolve as many divorce issues as possible for our clients.  Youngblood Law, PLLC frequently wraps up divorces completely during this period.  Then we merely have the court enter the divorce as soon as the wait period is over. That’s Divorce Innovation!

While the average divorce in Texas takes 15 months, we usually finish our divorces in roughly half that time.  We see no benefit to our clients from dragging on a divorce for no reason. Of course, sometimes slowing things down helps our clients, so we put on the brakes.

Temporary Orders

Whether the divorce takes the minimum 60 days, or takes several months, Temporary Orders are normally necessary.  Temporary Orders define how the spouses will live and interact with each other during the divorce proceedings.  Temporary orders address issues like who lives where, where the kids reside, who pays child support, and more. Consequently, we help our clients get temporary orders from the court early on in the case.

Once Temporary Orders are in place, they typically endure for the rest of the divorce proceedings. Temporary Orders often set the pace for the whole divorce. In fact, many final divorce decrees follow the temporary orders very closely.  For example, a custody arrangement that works great for the kids for several months, will likely become the final order of the court.   Therefore, Youngblood Law, PLLC takes temporary orders seriously.  When it comes to Temporary Orders, we believe failing to prepare is preparing to fail.


Tracing Separate PropertyAfter the Court enters Temporary Orders, discovery often follows.  Discovery is the formal process of gathering information, records, and documents needed to properly divide the marital estate.  Because discovery can be very labor intensive, it can be an expensive endeavor.   At Youngblood Law, PLLC, we do not use a cookie cutter approach for discovery like many firms. Rather, we tailor the amount and focus of the discovery we do to the unique circumstances our clients need.  That’s Divorce Innovation!


The courts usually order contested cases to mediation. At Youngblood Law, PLLC, we love mediating divorces with our clients.  For the client, mediation represents a value because a successful mediation basically ends the case. Finishing the case with an agreement is much less costly than final trial.  That’s why we do our best to settle divorces in mediation for our clients.

A mediated Settlement Agreement is irrevocable and can finish a divorce.We believe there is a better way to divorce, and mediation is a large part of that for our firm.  Besides wrapping up the divorce without the cost and stress of final trial, mediation represents other value to clients.  Importantly, mediation allows the clients to make decisions for themselves and children.  In this way clients control their own destinies! Nothing is left up to chance with a judge who doesn’t even know the spouses or kids. A successful mediation yields a Mediated Settlement Agreement. Once signed by the parties, the agreement is irrevocable. That’s why a mediated settlement agreement ends the divorce when experienced family lawyers use the process.

Caucus Style Mediation

Procedurally, Texas customarily uses a “caucus” style mediation.  This means each spouse is in a separate room with his or her attorney.  Then a neutral mediator goes back and forth to the rooms to try to work a deal.  The caucus system usually prevents the spouses from seeing each other.   Experienced lawyers like Youngblood Law, PLLC wrap up all the loose ends in a mediation. That’s Divorce Innovation!

Final Trial

If a caFinal trial can be expensive, but it finishes a contesteddivorcese fails to settle at mediation, then final trial is the next major process.  As the name implies, this is the trial that finishes the divorce.  Sometimes, by the time final trial rolls around, the spouses have already agreed on some issues in the divorce.  It is also possible to have a partial mediated settlement agreement that locks down some issues. If the parties couldn’t agree on everything at mediation, a final trial on the remaining issues is needed.  In a final trial, any issues that remain to be settled will be argued for the court to decide.

Property Division

Under the Texas Family Code, there is a system for dividing marital property.  We have written about Property Division in a Texas Divorce before. Likewise, we publish Texas marital property blogs, so we will not go into detail about it here.  The court decides any remaining property division issues at final trial.  The judge will hear testimony and see evidence of who should receive which marital property, and how much of it.  Youngblood Law, PLLC presents the evidence to make it easy for the judge to rule in our clients’ favor.
Obviously, Youngblood Law, PLLC works to preserve marital assets at final trial.  Our clients’ new happily ever after means they have the assets needed to start their new lives.  Of course, we do our best to help our clients keep any specific assets from the marriage they want.  But our low-conflict divorce model also helps preserve money that would be spent on legal fees by other firms.
Why spend tens of thousands of dollars in a divorce knowing the same money could help start a new life?  Why pay lawyers for unnecessary hearings when the same money could help provide the children a better life?  There is a better way to divorce, and that’s Divorce Innovation.

Access & Possession of the Children and Child Support

Like the Property Division section of this guide, we have blogged about custody and child support before.  We also treated these topics in depth on our What We Do page. Still, child custody and Child Support are part of many divorces, so we address them briefly here. But there is no need to go into depth on these issues in this divorce discussion. Nevertheless, children of the marriage should never serve as pawns in a divorce.  That’s why we do our best to insulate the children from grown-up proceedings. We never use the kids for leverage.

Preserving relationships is bet interest of the childThere’s a better way to divorce. Preserving relationships between the parents and the children is crucial.  But preserving the relationship between the parents is also important.  We find that most of our clients desire a solid co-parenting relationship with their former spouseCertainly the children deserve to have regular and frequent access to both parents.  Likewise won’t the children want their parents to be with them on important occasions?  Youngblood Law, PLLC’s low-conflict methods help give clients the opportunity to someday sit with their former spouse to watch their kids graduate.  We hope both spouses will someday attend their children’s weddings without drama.  That’s Divorce Innovation.

Divorce Costs

A common question we hear is “How much will this divorce cost me?” Unfortunately, we cannot answer that question.  Neither can other lawyers, at least not with any certainty.  Unlike other law firms that merely run a law practice, Youngblood Law, PLLC runs a business.  We are in the business of selling legal services.  Our dedication to running a business means we track and monitor key metrics.  This benefits the client because we know what certain services cost, so we can price our services appropriatelyDivorce Done Differently means being frugal.

No lawyer can predict how complex a case may be, who the opposing attorney may be, what steps in the divorce process will be needed, or other variables.  All those things affect the cost of a divorce, so we can’t guess the cost of any given divorce.  We have our historical data though, and our average divorce costs a fraction of the state norm.

We believe that Divorce Done Differently demands that we be good stewards of client funds.  As a result, we are careful with the legal work we do, and only do work that moves the client’s case forward. As a policy, we don’t do work for the client that puts the client in debt to the firm.  To avoid cash crunches for our clients we carefully monitor their cases to help them keep their accounts funded.  We offer payment options and set payment plans for our clients’ convenience.

Another Option: Collaborative Divorce

Many people do not even know there is an another option for Divorce in Texas.  Collaborative divorce offers people the chance to finish a divorce without trial.  Youngblood Law, PLLC proudly offers the collaborative model to our divorce clients.Billboards Showing Your Practice

Benefits of Collaborative Divorce include complete confidentiality.  The entire divorce takes place away from the courthouse and prying ears.  Even the divorce decree won’t reveal any confidential information about the parties.  Collaborative Divorce builds safety for the parties into the system as well.

Neutral professionals provide guidance to the spouses beyond advice of lawyers.  A mental health professional helps design a parenting plan for the spouses.  Meanwhile a financial professional helps the spouses budget and prepare for life after the divorce.

We believe Collaborative Divorce is the epitome of Divorce Done Differently.  Each of Youngblood Law, PLLC’s attorneys received training in this new, exciting divorce method.  See our blogs about Collaborative Divorce for more of its features and benefits.

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Youngblood Law, PLLC is a Fort Worth, Texas law firm dedicated to family law.  We help working people through divorce so they can start their new happily ever after.  We also proudly offer the collaborative divorce process for our clients.   This essay is intended for educational use only and is not a replacement for competent legal counsel.  If you are facing a family law matter, we recommend obtaining competent legal counsel like Youngblood Law, PLLC.  For more information, contact us at 817-601-5345, find us on the web at www.youngblood-law.com.

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Texas Divorce Frequently Asked Questions

Divorce leads to many questions See our FAQs for info

Common Texas Divorce Terms

1. Alimony: Texas is a non-alimony state. Texas does have Spousal Support that can run for a period of years, but it is rare that a spouse would get a payment from the other spouse after the divorce in perpetuity.
2. Answer: The most basic response the Respondent should file in a divorce to make sure the Petitioner does not complete the divorce without participation of the Respondent.
3. Best Interest of the Child (BIC):Texas requires that all decisions the Court makes regarding the children be based on what the Court thinks is in the Best Interest of the Child. The BIC is based on the totality of the circumstances, and each judge is different, so guessing how the judge will rule on an issue with the children is often difficult.
4. Collaborative Divorce: A type of divorce that is completely different than traditional adversarial divorce. Collaborative divorce uses a team to resolve the divorce completely and efficiently, sometimes in 10-12 weeks. The team has two spouses each with a lawyer, a financial professional and a mental health professional for a total of six people all working to solve the problems the spouses will go through after the divorce.
5. Community Property:Texas presumes everything that is acquired during the marriage belongs to the community; both parties have an ownership interest in each item.
6. Conservatorship: The possession and access of the children along with the rights and duties relating to the children.
7. Counterpetition: This document acknowledges the Petition for divorce, and lays out the terms under which the Respondent wishes to finish the divorce
8. Court: This is the District court or County Court at Law that will oversee the divorce
9. Discovery: The formal method that allows the spouses to learn as much as they can about all of the facts of a marriage. Financial information, property information, and personal information of the parties is fair game for discovery. Discovery can be quite labor intensive and expensive for one or both parties in a divorce.
10. Final Decree of Divorce: This document is the formal order that finishes the divorce. The Decree will have all of the provisions necessary to divide the property between the parties, and control the parenting plan for the children.
11. Final trial:The last hearing in a divorce. This hearing is usually the most intense, stressful hearing and is characterized by formal testimony. The judge will render a decision that ends the divorce.
12. Joint Managing Conservatorship (JMC): An arrangement where both parents share rights and duties relating to the children. Texas presumes that it is in the Best Interest of the Child (BIC) that both parents be actively involved in the children’s lives.
13. Just and Right Division: Texas requires the marital estate be divided in a “just and right” way. Just and right is another way of saying “fair” under all the circumstances. The division should be fair to both parties based on all the facts before the court.
14. Legal Separation: Does NOT exist in Texas. A person is either married, or not.
15. Marital estate: Everything the spouses own individually and jointly at the time of marriage including personal property, retirement accounts, vehicles, and real estate.
16. Mediated Settlement Agreement (MSA): This is the product of a successful mediation. Once the parties sign this document, they cannot back out of the agreement, but a final trial will not be required, thus saving the parties thousands of dollars of legal fees, months of waiting, and the stress of final trial. The Final decree must conform to the agreements of the MSA.
17. Mediation: A process of dispute resolution where the spouses and their respective attorneys meet attempt to resolve disputed issues in the divorce by using a mediator that goes between the parties trying to reach an agreement that will settle the divorce. This is an opportunity for the parties to have a say in how the divorce is finished. If mediation fails, many times, final trial is the last option.
18. Mediator: A person, usually an attorney or retired judge, that has received special training that enables them to help two spouses reach agreements that will settle the divorce.
19. Obligee parent: The parent to whom child support is owed from the obligor parent
20. Obligor parent: The parent required to pay child support to the oblige parent for the support of the children.
21. Petition: This is the document that is filed with the Court by the Petitioner that officially starts the divorce process. The petition lays out the initial terms under which the Petitioner wishes to finish the divorce.
22. Petitioner: The party who files a divorce. The petitioner has some procedural advantages, and most of the pleadings throughout the divorce will refer to this person as Petitioner.
23. Protective Order: An order separate from any other order in a divorce process that enjoins a person from certain criminal behavior. This order, unlike a Temporary restraining Order is enforceable by the police. A person violating the Protective Order will likely be arrested when the police arrive.
24. Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO): An order signed by the court that is separate and distinct from the divorce decree that divides a retirement account. This order tells the retirement plan administrator how to divide the retirement account according to the terms of the divorce decree.
25. Respondent: The party who was filed upon. This is the spouse that didn’t start the divorce.
26. Separate property: Any property owned by a spouse when he or she entered the marriage or any property gained during the marriage by inheritance, as a gift, or as judgment for pain and suffering in a personal injury lawsuit.
27. Spousal Maintenance: Like alimony, but in Texas, the monthly payments run only for a term of years, not in perpetuity.
28. Temporary Orders: Orders, usually obtained at a hearing in court that lay out the rules the parties will live under during the pendency of the divorce. Temporary orders will typically provide some stability for use of the parties’ property, child support, possession and access to the children, and more. Once these orders are in place, the parties will abide by these orders until they are modified in court, or the final decree is entered.
29. Temporary Restraining Order (TRO): Orders that protect people and property during the pendency of a divorce. Not to be confused with a Protective Order, a TRO is an order designed to make the parties “play nice” during the divorce process. There are numerous “standard” provisions but the intent is to keep either spouse from damaging the property and the relationships between the spouses and the children.

Is Texas the right place for me to file for divorce?

For a divorce to be proper in Texas, prior to the filing of the divorce, one spouse must reside in Texas more than six months, and reside in the county for ninety days. The county of residence is the proper venue for the case.

How do I start the divorce process in Texas?

A petition for divorce is the formal document that starts the process of divorce. The day it is filed starts the statutory waiting period.

Do I need to do anything if my spouse filed for divorce?

Yes. At a minimum, an answer should be filed to prevent the case from being finalized without your consent.

Is there a waiting period for divorce in Texas?

Yes. The waiting period in Texas is sixty days after the day the divorce was filed. Thus, the wait is actually sixty-one days.

Can the waiting period for a divorce be waived in Texas?

The waiting period can only be waived by agreement of the parties and permission of the court, or in the case of family violence that makes the sixty day waiting period unworkable.

Is the procedure different for an uncontested divorce in Texas?

No. The procedure is the same for uncontested divorces as for hotly contested divorces, however, an uncontested divorce will be much less expensive because several expensive processes like discovery and mediation are bypassed due to agreements made by the parties.

What if one party in the marriage doesn’t want a divorce?

Texas will still grant a divorce even if one spouse very much wants to stay married. Forcing a person to remain married because the other spouse doesn’t want the divorce would be problematic to say the least.

Will my spouse have to be served with papers?

As with all legal proceedings, a spouse is entitled to proper notice of the suit for divorce. In some cases, as in an uncontested divorce, a spouse may waive the right to be served with divorce papers. A waiver of service must be signed and notarized.

What are grounds for divorce in Texas?

Grounds for divorce include adultery, abandonment, living apart, incarceration, cruelty, and being confined to a mental hospital. However, the most common reason for divorce is insupportability. Most Texas divorces do not blame the break-up of the marriage on either party, and there is not a lot to be gained in a divorce by blaming fault.

Does one party have to be at fault for a Texas divorce?

No. Texas is a no-fault jurisdiction. A party can file for divorce because he or she wants one, and for no other reason.

What if I want a divorce but I cannot find my spouse?

If a spouse has moved out and cannot be located, there are methods of meeting the required legal formality of serving him or her. We can help with this.

How do I get the court to enter a final decree?

To get the court to make a final decree of divorce, either the court will hold a final trial and render an order, or the parties will agree to a final decree, and the court will accept that in lieu of a final trial. All of the legal procedures and formalities for every divorce must be met before the court will sign a final decree.

How do I pay for a divorce in Texas if my spouse controls the money?

The funds available to the parties in a marriage belong to the community estate. That means that the income earned by the spouses belong to the couple, not to the earner. The court can order funds be paid by one spouse to the attorney of the other spouse if the second souse does not have any other means to pay an attorney.

Is there an advantage to filing first in a divorce?

There are some small advantages to filing first such as presenting arguments first at final trial. However, if the other party has already filed for divorce, all is not lost. Both parties are free to plead for whatever they want throughout the proceedings, and both parties will be allowed to present their cases.

Can a lawyer take a contingency fee in a divorce?

No. A lawyer is not permitted to work on a contingency fee basis in Texas family law cases like divorce. This is why lawyers require a retainer to be paid before work is done.

What is a common law marriage in Texas?

A common law marriage in Texas begins at the instant that three elements are met:
The spouses reside together in Texas (no time minimum time needed)
The parties hold themselves out as being married (presenting themselves to the community as a married couple)
The parties have a present intent to be married to each other (the parties believe they are presently in a marriage relationship with each other).

Is there a common law divorce in Texas?

No. There is no common law divorce in Texas. Once people are in a marriage relationship, a formal divorce is required to get them out.

Can I open my spouse’s mail?

No. Mail addressed solely to your spouse should be given or forwarded to your spouse.

Can I snoop into my spouse’s email or social media accounts?

NO! Intercepting electronic communications between your spouse and a third party violates the Texas wiretapping statute, and can land you in very hot and expensive water.

Can I get a divorce if I still live with my spouse?

Yes. Cohabitation is a choice made by the spouses that does not affect the legal proceedings. Though, cohabitation during a divorce can be problematic for the individuals

Can I get a divorce even if my spouse and I are still having sex?

Yes. Being intimate with your spouse does not affect the legal proceedings. However, keep in mind that sleeping with your spouse may degrade your legal arguments in the divorce. For example, it will be hard to argue that you want a divorce because your spouse is cheating on you if you still have sex with your spouse.

In a Texas divorce does the wife automatically get custody of the children?

No. The Texas Family Code requires that the court do what is in the Best Interest of the Child (BIC) when deciding where and with whom the children reside.

What is “conservatorship”?

Conservatorship is what many people call “custody”, but The Texas Family Code does not use the term custody. Conservatorship has to do with possession of the children as well as the rights and duties of the parents relating to the children.

How is child support calculated?

The parent who owes child support pays a set percentage of his or her income to the other parent for the support of the children. This amount is calculated based on the Net Monthly Resources of the obligor parent. The Net Monthly Resources are likely not the same as the obligor’s check stub might suggest.

Do Texas courts require one party pay child support?

Texas presumes it’s in the Best Interest of the Child that the obligor parent pay child support. However, if the parties agree that no child support will be owed AND the obligee parent is not accepting any state benefits like WIC, food stamps or Medicaid. If the obligee spouse is accepting any state benefits the Texas Office of Attorney General will seek child support from the obligor spouse regardless of the agreements of the spouses.

What is the standard visitation schedule?

The standard possession schedule means the parent not in regular possession of the children will have possession of the children on the first, third and fifth weekends of each month beginning at 6:00 p.m. on Friday, and ending at 6:00 p.m. the following Sunday as well as every Thursday evening between 6:00 p.m. and 8:00 p.m.

What is the Expanded Standard Possession Schedule?

The expanded standard possession schedule means the parent not in regular possession of the children will have possession of the children on the first, third and fifth weekends of each month beginning when school is dismissed on Friday, and ending when school resumes the following Monday morning as well as every Thursday beginning when school is released on Thursday and ending when school resumes the following Friday morning.

It is important to note than a parent can simply elect the expanded possession order rather than be stuck with the standard possession order. If a parent so elects, it is up to the other parent to show the court that it’s not in the best Interest of the Children for the other parent to have more time with the children.

Can I get 50/50 possession of my children?

Many courts will allow the parents to agree to a 50/50 possession schedule with the children. However, some courts prefer to stick to the Texas Family Code and order a standard possession schedule or expanded standard possession schedule. Note that there are options beyond week on/week off plans that yield a 50/50 split.

If I get 50/50 possession of my children, do I have to pay child support?

Maybe. Some courts will allow the parties to agree that neither will pay support since both parents equally bear the costs of raising the children. However, some courts still require a spouse who makes significantly more income to pay the other parent some support.

Who carries health insurance on the children during and after a divorce?

Typically if one parent has insurance for the children through his or her employment, that parent will continue to provide the insurance. The other spouse may be required to pay a portion of the premiums. If neither parent has insurance for the children, the parent with primary possession of the children will enroll the children in Medicaid if nothing else.

Can my spouse and I agree that neither party will pay child support?

The parties may agree that neither will pay child support. However, the Court will order support payments if the oblige parent is receiving any state benefits like WIC or Medicaid for the children

How does my visitation schedule affect child support?

For the most part, it doesn’t. An obligor parent must pay the ordered child support regardless of how much visitation he or she gets with the children. Failure to pay child support does not affect the right to visit the children.

What is community property?

Texas presumes any and all property obtained during the marriage is community property. This includes income from employment, vehicles, land, houses, and other smaller property. It means that every piece of property is presumed to be owned jointly by the spouses, i.e. it is not his car and her car. In Texas, each spouse owns half of both cars!

How is property divided in Texas?

In Texas, the marital property is divided in a way the parties agree is fair, or the court thinks is fair. This fair division is called a “just and right” division.

Can a spouse get alimony in Texas?

In a way. Texas is formally a non-alimony state, but Texas does allow for one spouse to pay a monthly maintenance payment to the other spouse if the spouse does not have the resources to pay for his or her reasonable minimum needs. Spousal maintenance is relatively difficult to get in Texas, and at most it typically runs for a few years, not in perpetuity like in alimony states.

Does the wife automatically get the house in a divorce?

No, Texas requires a just and right division of the marital estate. Either spouse could end up with the marital residence depending on many factors or by agreement of the parties.

If my spouse cheated on me, can I get more of the property?

Maybe. Be advised that Texas family courts see adultery all the time, so Texas judges are not shocked by a cheating spouse. However, the cheating spouse may have to compensate the innocent spouse if:
1. The cheating spouse spent significant money on one or more paramours (buying a few dinners likely doesn’t warrant compensation)
2. The funds spent on the paramour can be documented (there needs to be evidence, not mere suspicion)
3. There are resources available to compensate the innocent spouse (if the cheating spouse has no money or resources to compensate the innocent spouse, then the effort to prove the affair was wasted)

Does my spouse automatically get half of my retirement?

Not necessarily. There are two major points here. First, is that some or all of your retirement was accrued during the marriage. The portion accrued during the marriage is not yours. It belongs to the community. It is community property. This means that your spouse has an ownership interest in the retirement accrued through your job! So your spouse is not technically getting half of your retirement; half of it belonged to your spouse the whole time. Likewise, any retirement your spouse had is half yours.

Second, your spouse may be willing to forego her share of your retirement in echnage for more of some other asset such as the marital residence. The retirement accounts can be negotiated.

What is a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO)?

An order signed by the court that is separate and distinct from the divorce decree that divides a retirement account. This order tells the retirement plan administrator how to divide the retirement account according to the terms of the divorce decree. Most divorce attorneys contract these technical orders out to other attorneys who concentrate their practice on QDRO preparation.

How does bankruptcy affect my divorce?

A bankruptcy has a profound impact on your divorce. The automatic stay that the bankruptcy puts in place to protect you from creditors binds the state courts as well. The divorce is on hold until the federal bankruptcy court “lifts the stay” to allow the divorce court to continue the proceedings.

Can I take money from savings or joint checking before or during the divorce?

Many divorces will have a temporary restraining order or a standing order in place that prevents the parties from clearing out the bank accounts. However, the courts usually allow for the parties to withdraw money for the purpose of paying living expenses and legal fees. No vacations or other big purchases without speaking to your lawyer though!

Can I cancel the health or auto insurance on my spouse during the divorce?

No. Even in an open enrollment period that would allow you to cancel health insurance, doing so during a divorce is a no-no. A temporary Restraining Order or standing order will likely expressly state that neither party can cancel the insurance for the other, but even if you could, it is bad business. There is not legal separation in Texas. So if your spouse was seriously injured during the proceedings, the medical bills will fall upon the marital estate. Better to be insured.

Likewise, the auto insurance should stay in effect. If the TRO or standing orders does not forbid canceling the auto insurance, doing so would be bad business since you have a community property ownership stake in the car your spouse is driving.

Who pays the debts after the divorce?

The courts like to divide the debts down the middle when possible, but the parties are free to agree to a plan to pay off the debt. However, it should be noted that the creditor will come after unpaid debt primarily against the party who owns the account. For example, regardless of what the Final Decree of Divorce says, if Spouse 1 signed the contract with MasterCard®, then Mastercard® is coming after Spouse 1 for the debt.

Who gets the proceeds of the sale of the marital home or other real estate?

The parties typically split the proceeds of the sale of the marital residence. However, the proceeds can be negotiated. For example, the parties can agree that Spouse 1 can keep all of the proceeds of the sale of the house in exchange for Spouse 2 keeping all of the retirement she accrued through her employer.

Can I keep my car in a Texas divorce?

Generally, each party keeps the car in his or her possession. This gets complicated when both parties are on the car note with the lender. There are ways of sorting out this problem.

Who pays the household bills while the divorce is pending?

Generally, the party who lives in a residence pays the bills. If spouse 1 moves out, then he or she will be responsible for paying his or her own rent and utilities, while Spouse 2 continues to pay for the rent or mortgage and his or her own utilities. Thus, when the parties separate their finances, each pays his or her own, which typically depletes the marital estate quickly. If parties cannot afford to pay for two households, then they sometimes agree to continue to live together during the proceedings for economic reasons.